Day 6:55 pm
So there I was, driving down to Weymouth for my Olympic interview and found myself flicking through songs on the CD player. Now the CD is one that I’ve put together out of the thousands of songs on my iTunes and I found myself truly marvelling at the power that the composer or songwriter holds. As I see it it falls into three categories.
Firstly there’s the song or tune that’s become a favourite and you know where you were when it was released. It reminds you of that time in your life and brings up the emotions you felt at that time. It could be sad or happy time but the tune will always bring back those emotions. A couple with an “Our Song” is a good example of this. The tune reminding them both of the time they met. An example in my life is the Enigma album “Cross of Changes”. Those tunes will always bring back memories of the time I served in Bosnia.
Secondly there’s the ballad. The realm of the songwriter that really wants to get a point across or communicate with the listener. The good songwriter gets it so in tune with the music that it fosters powerful emotions. Some of the political songs of U2 would be a good example. If it’s love you’re talking about I can think of no better a writer than Chris de Burgh. Just the mere words are enough to jerk a tear.
Thirdly there’s composer. The classical ones (Mozart, Brahms etc) as well as the modern ones (Vangelis, Jablonsky et al). Typically they are used for writing the score to films. They are so skilled in writing their music that they can conjour the visual and emotion with hardly an eye on the film.
To the people who have the talent to create and write music and song, I bow to your wonderful creativity!continue reading
Some time ago they started asking people to volunteer in helping to run the 2012 Olympic Games. Seeing an opportunity to become involved in something that will only happen once in this country in my lifetime I eagerly applied.
So I find myself driving to Weymouth this afternoon for an interview. They’d like me to become an interviewer for applicants at local selection events. Perhaps they saw a value of having someone in my profession in such a job. After all, any therapist (but especially hypnotherapists) must possess high interpersonal skills.continue reading
Kicking off the “Tips & Tricks” Section of my blog is an item on human communication.
Now, very little of what makes up communication is the actual words we speak (more on this to come in later posts) but for this post focus on just that. So often people argue because of a misunderstanding. This can range from a minor disagreement at work or between friends to a full blown marital breakdown! In the extreme, wars have started over misunderstandings! How many time do you hear someone saying things like “God he’s so thick, he just doesn’t get it” or “He thinks he so much better than me just because I don’t get what he’s asking for”. Obviously, there are likely to be many reasons for such rhetoric, but consider this, is it ones responsibility to understand or to be understood?
I am going to “borrow” from the world of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) here as one of the presuppositions of NLP sums this up quite nicely:
“The meaning of ALL communication is the response you get”.
Put simply, if you say something to someone and they respond differently to that which you expected, they’ve not understood you. However, if they respond as you expected then they have. Yes, read that again, as I’m sure that for a lot of people this will lead to a complete reversal of their understanding of communication. Essentially it states that it’s nobodies responsibility to understand another person, but that person’s responsibility to make themselves understood! We are all different, we all perceive the world in different ways. It follows therefore, that if you are trying to explain something to someone who perceives the world in a different way to you and they don’t understand, it’s not their problem, it’s yours. It’s up to you to find a different way of getting your point across.
So, don’t get annoyed or frustrated with others when they just don’t seem to get you. Explain it differently and watch the results. Perhaps better communication?continue reading