The Holy Trinity
Uh oh! He’s going all religious on us I hear you all cry, but I assure you that is not the case. Perhaps this post would be better entitled “The Holy Trinity of Therapy” but I thought that was getting too “wordy” for a short snappy title. So what is the Holy Trinity of Therapy?
This is a way, a form if you like, that I have come to think of any course of therapy. Regardless whether it utilizes hypnosis or any other therapeutic idea, model or convention. For that is what these differing models are at the end of the day aren’t they? They’re all separate sets of rules based on the originating therapists thinking and laid over other people’s issues in order to help them with their issues. As such, I believe it is healthy… NO! NECESSARY… to question these models. Challenge their ideas and beliefs and really come up with one’s own style of affording assistance to others.
One of MY ideas (and as far as I know it is my way of looking at it), is The Holy Trinity of Therapy. It is the idea that three things (a trinity) must be in place for therapeutic change to occur. Not only that, they have to happen in order!
- Acceptance. The individual MUST ACCEPT there is an issue to me addressed. I am often asked if hypnosis could assist X, Y or Z only to find that I’m not answering the question for the enquirer, rather somebody that they know. To these people I will always say “Yes it can help” (if it can of course, “But please get your friend/relative etc to contact me to discuss it further”. Often the friend or relative won’t consider themselves to have a problem. The individual must accept there is an issue that requires outside assistance for them to deal with otherwise what are we addressing (in their minds). Usually this first step of the trinity has already happened when a client first sees me. It has to have happened for them to be sat there nervously wondering what’s going to happen next, otherwise they simply wouldn’t have picked the phone up to book a session with me in the first place.
- Education. Both of what is going on the client’s mind in relation to their issue AND of how whatever methodology we wish to use, seeks to address the presenting issues. I have always found that an educated client in this respect not only enjoys having the enhanced knowledge concerning their issue, but also responds to the actual therapy itself far easier, far quicker than might otherwise be the case. I firmly believe this is because they have been told what is going on, what to expect and nothing should come as a surprise to them. Any resistance that presents itself, usually because the client is stepping into the unknown, simply doesn’t have a handle onto which to latch itself.
- Therapy. This, of course, is where all the different therapists (and their perceptions) will differ. One therapist might use CBT type interventions, another EFT or EMDR and so on and so forth. One thing might work well with one person for a certain issue but won’t scratch the surface for another person for the same issue. This is because we all perceive the world in different ways so clearly a rigid structure (like CBT for example) will not work with everyone. Therapists must respect this! They must respect each other for the skills they have and accept that one therapist might be able to help an individual better than they can. In my opinion (and this is MY opinion you understand), there is far too much “This is the therapy I know and nothing else can work on X, Y or Z” going on. This simply isn’t the case and anyone just starting out in the therapy world would do well to recognize this very early on.
So, a very “broad-brush” description of how a course of therapy works. The fact I have call it The Holy Trinity of Therapy is, I suppose, merely semantics. But, who cares what we call it… as long as it works!