Don’t Look Back in Anger
Five words, one small sentence, immortalised by the group Oasis in the song of the same name. So often we take meaning from the words of a song or a quote from a film. I certainly have and have posted on that very subject in this blog.
But it seems to be human nature to look back. Rake over the past with a fine tooth comb and this is fine, as long as we can learn from whatever mistakes we’ve made and move on. Often, I am confronted with a new client who’s issues are firmly rooted in the past or their childhood. But it’s their inability to learn from those mistakes and look to the future that has them calling for help. Quite simply many of us are stuck in the past, feeling unable to forgive the wrongs that may have befallen us.
I remember as a child, I detested history in school. I just couldn’t see the point at that young age. I simply switched off in history lessons but with hindsight, I realise that this was probably because my teachers (probably bound by the curriculum of the time) completely failed to make it interesting. They certainly didn’t manage to demonstrate any particular relevance to how we live our lives today. To this day I still detest that period of history known as the Industrial Revolution. I’m sure we spent a complete school year on it! Today, however, I’m quite interested in various bits of history, especially those that have a relevance today.
Yes of course we must look back to our pasts. It’s an empowering exercise to look back on happy memories particularly. But when regarding the not so good times, it’s important to be mindful of the words of that song. “Don’t Look Back in Anger”, or sorrow, or desperation for that matter. The trick is to be able to look back and learn. Use those learnings in an appropriate manner with which to live our lives NOW.
“The past is history, the future a mystery. Today is a gift, that’s why they call it the present!” (Anon).